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Introducing · Replies from Farrah Thomas
Agony Aunt Corner.
Big feelings. Tricky choices. A fresh perspective.
Friendship, family, relationships and the everyday decisions that keep going round in your head. When letters open, £1 includes one brief private written reply from Farrah Thomas about one dilemma.
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Example letter 01 · Friendship
“Am I always the backup plan?”
My friend keeps cancelling at the last minute. I know life gets busy, but I rearrange my day and end up feeling silly. How do I bring it up without making it a huge argument?
— Tired of waiting (fictional nickname)
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Start with what has happened, rather than a verdict about the friendship: “Our last two plans were cancelled on the day, and I felt disappointed after setting that time aside.”
Ask whether a different kind of plan would be easier to keep. Then say what you need: a little more notice, or arrangements that do not require you to put the rest of your day on hold.
You can be understanding about someone else's life without treating your own time as disposable. Give the conversation a chance, and pay attention to what changes afterwards.
Example letter 02 · Family boundaries
“Do I have to say yes every time?”
My family assumes I will organise every birthday and get-together. I love seeing everyone, but I am tired of doing all the work. I feel guilty saying I cannot do the next one.
— The unofficial organiser (fictional nickname)
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A clear answer early is often kinder than an exhausted yes followed by resentment. Try: “I'd love to come, but I can't organise this one. Who can take the lead?”
You do not have to replace a large commitment with another large commitment to make your no acceptable. Offer one smaller task only if you genuinely have the time and want to do it.
Let other people have the opportunity to contribute. A gathering can be simpler and still be meaningful.
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